Living so close to a major city, it is pretty easy to get caught in the mix of so much happening at one time. I used to walk around aimlessly as if the ideas were going to just pour into my brain.
Newsflash, it doesn’t always go down like that, and when it doesn’t I started trying to use my five senses to get the juices flowing.
1. Touch: Depending on your art of choice, considering the various textures surrounding you, check out those buildings, but cobblestone on the ground, if you’re weird like me you didn’t actually have to.
2. Taste: Get some ice cream, go and try that new food truck, I am not ashamed to admit: I’m inspired often by food!
3. Smell: Now considering I’m talking about the city, this could end up being really unpleasant but give it a go! My favorite smells come from small shops, next thing you know I’m inside networking.
4. Sight: This one’s easy. When thinking about sight I like to consider my feelings as I explore the city. Sunny days free of sunglasses help me to take in the day wholeheartedly, making me feel warm inside and out.
5. Hear: Take those earphones out and listen up! I once heard a girl complaining about what she didn’t like in a dress she was trying on and you know what I did? I went home and designed her dress for myself. The girl had style. Same can happen for you; we spend so much time browsing our playlists that we miss out on pure gold.
Give your senses a city whirl and then come back and tell me everything.
Of all the challenges life has brought to me on an interpersonal level, I feel like simply staying in touch with folks is my hardest task yet. It’s always been a personal flaw pray for me.
I know that’s no excuse but I do find that with my hectic schedule, my long distance relationships are the ones most understanding. My best girlfriends all live pretty far for me especially since I don’t drive; that’s OK because it turns out we have an unspoken understanding.
I only entertain hustlers in my circle, which ultimately means that they are busy too. We keep in touch and talk when we can. We schedule calls, FaceTime and send snaps on Snapchat when we can’t wait. Being friends from a distance allows me to grind guilt free and not have to warm up a situation when I’m feeling social (we all been there which is super awkward and usually obvious). Don’t do it to yourself.
Long-distance friends just get it.
I’ve lived in a ton of places in my life, and whether it was with my family or on my own there’s always a sense of sadness that follows,
sometimes even depression.
One winter I went to live with a family friend and I just started a new job; it appeared that everything was finally coming together for me. On the outside I was fine but the inside was a different story. I was homesick and my living situation was miserable; I started to become depressed. One night I found myself binge watching Project Runway. Everyone knows I’ve been in Love with Tim Gunn and this show for years but for whatever reason I stopped watching it for a while. It was by watching at this particular time that I called my mother and asked her to bring my sewing machine with her on her next visit.
My mommy missed me so much that she gave my machine a thorough inspection (she’s the master seamstress of the family) and brought it to me right away. Getting my sewing machine back up and running saved me. I was falling fast because I felt like I had nothing to work towards. As a goal oriented person, there is nothing more disheartening than having no goals at all. Being able to start and wrap my mind around a project gave me just the right amount of motivation to keep going.
And then with just a simple stitch,
I had purpose.