Keep it 100%
We all have a family member or two that we know we could live without, but unfortunately due to genetics…
Fear is a natural part of being human, but that does not mean you have to claim it. I’ve been figuring that out for myself as I face my own insecurities surrounding my business.
I’ve been telling my fears to hit the bricks. I’m keeping my distance.
I only acknowledge my fears on occasion.
Why? Because it’s not only healthy, but helpful.
Sometimes we don’t realize that our fears greatly influence the choices we make. So I put my fears to the back of my mind and just keep an eye on it (anyone know the reference from Always Sunny?) and in the meantime, I prefer to stay focused on my next move.
They say the best things in life are free but I’ll tell you what’s not:
MESSAGE: People only understand the value of time and money when it directly affects them. Don’t take it personally, but do tell these freeloaders no!
No, you may not get “the hookup” on my work after I’ve spent my hard-earned money to make it do what it do.
No, you may not get a percentage off just because you know me, and you damn sure can’t have anything for free unless you plan to put in some work promotionally. This was really hard for me at first but as I’m coming into my brand it’s definitely been necessary.
In the beginning, I gave out so much free stuff just looking for exposure which isn’t always a bad thing if there’s a mutual agreement (future post for sure). When I look back on how much I’ve spent and how much I’ve given away, it’s absolutely embarrassing and it’s because I was giving folks the hookup.
I’m begging you DO NOT DO IT.
Especially if you know you can afford it. If you’re reading this and you actually know me, don’t be upset.
Next time pay me.
The best support in this game is monetary.
Wanna know a secret? Not every DIY is a success! (sorry if I’m ruining the magic for anyone)
Sometimes you glue the wrong sides together, break the zipper, you spill the paint and call it quits. Anything can be fixed with a little bit of patience if you’ve got it, but when you don’t…
1.Save the project
2.Gather or fold up all the pieces
3.Put everything in a bag
4.Write yourself a note
-what it was supposed to be
-what happened or went wrong
-what you need to finish or complete the project
- Sit on it. (not literally)
Sometimes a little time is all you need and leaving yourself a note helps if you let a little too much time lapse.
I’ve lived in a ton of places in my life, and whether it was with my family or on my own there’s always a sense of sadness that follows,
sometimes even depression.
One winter I went to live with a family friend and I just started a new job; it appeared that everything was finally coming together for me. On the outside I was fine but the inside was a different story. I was homesick and my living situation was miserable; I started to become depressed. One night I found myself binge watching Project Runway. Everyone knows I’ve been in Love with Tim Gunn and this show for years but for whatever reason I stopped watching it for a while. It was by watching at this particular time that I called my mother and asked her to bring my sewing machine with her on her next visit.
My mommy missed me so much that she gave my machine a thorough inspection (she’s the master seamstress of the family) and brought it to me right away. Getting my sewing machine back up and running saved me. I was falling fast because I felt like I had nothing to work towards. As a goal oriented person, there is nothing more disheartening than having no goals at all. Being able to start and wrap my mind around a project gave me just the right amount of motivation to keep going.
And then with just a simple stitch,
I had purpose.
I made the choice early on that I would like to generally have a one-of-a-kind or OOAK shop.
OOAK-ing means that I am literally doing it myself, and I’m OK with that. Living in the US, just about everything we have comes from the factory. Somewhere out there in a place that is usually far, far away (but we won’t get into that right now) from someone you will never know, someone you’ll never meet came your favorite INSERT ITEM HERE. I blog because at the end of the day, it’s all about the connection. There is a chance that me and you may know each other already, but many of you I will never meet and here we are connecting. I want to be a part of your life (not talking marriage or ceremonies involving candles and friendship bracelets #WeirdLife) while doing what I love.
Speaking of love: I love the idea of not only owning original pieces, but being able to have this platform where I can share them with the world. There’s something extraordinarily special about having put your heart and soul into doing anything that will be shared with others.
I’m here for it all.