This past Sunday was my very first time working as a vendor for Silently Loud.
I only had two weeks to prepare as I only got accepted to work the poetry event Voices in Power about 2 1/2 weeks out. Preparing the items I was going to sell wasn’t too hard considering I’ve been working on putting items together for my relaunch (which by the way is taking a little longer than I originally scheduled).
On the way to the event, I admittedly found myself in a wave of self-doubt and fear. I kept saying to myself and to my best friend who was there to help me that this would be a “learning experience” and that it’s not a big deal “if no one buys anything”. I convinced myself of all of this to save myself from potential embarrassment. Just like in the beginning when I first started sewing handbags, I kept saying to myself this might end up being stupid and people will probably think it’s dumb.
I was wrong then, and I shortly realized this weekend that I was wrong to think that people wouldn’t see what I see in my shop. The open mic night showed me so much love as did the many customers I had throughout the event. I got 1,000,001 questions, people were interested in my business cards and my website, and the earrings and even my bags were literally flying off the table. At one point we were swarmed with customers.
It was great.
People want to see more for me and I can’t wait to give it to them. I will say that this was definitely a learning experience. I’ll be back with another blog post about that specifically.
For those who are still following this blog, holding me down on Instagram and Facebook. I just want to say thank you so much for supporting me and being patient with my relaunch. It’s been a little challenging as I have a full-time job being a community organizer.
My heart feels so full right now with the love of everyone supporting me and Silently
Polka-Dots and Stripes Y’all
Keep it 100%
We all have a family member or two that we know we could live without, but unfortunately due to genetics…
Fear is a natural part of being human, but that does not mean you have to claim it. I’ve been figuring that out for myself as I face my own insecurities surrounding my business.
I’ve been telling my fears to hit the bricks. I’m keeping my distance.
I only acknowledge my fears on occasion.
Why? Because it’s not only healthy, but helpful.
Sometimes we don’t realize that our fears greatly influence the choices we make. So I put my fears to the back of my mind and just keep an eye on it (anyone know the reference from Always Sunny?) and in the meantime, I prefer to stay focused on my next move.
Living so close to a major city, it is pretty easy to get caught in the mix of so much happening at one time. I used to walk around aimlessly as if the ideas were going to just pour into my brain.
Newsflash, it doesn’t always go down like that, and when it doesn’t I started trying to use my five senses to get the juices flowing.
1. Touch: Depending on your art of choice, considering the various textures surrounding you, check out those buildings, but cobblestone on the ground, if you’re weird like me you didn’t actually have to.
2. Taste: Get some ice cream, go and try that new food truck, I am not ashamed to admit: I’m inspired often by food!
3. Smell: Now considering I’m talking about the city, this could end up being really unpleasant but give it a go! My favorite smells come from small shops, next thing you know I’m inside networking.
4. Sight: This one’s easy. When thinking about sight I like to consider my feelings as I explore the city. Sunny days free of sunglasses help me to take in the day wholeheartedly, making me feel warm inside and out.
5. Hear: Take those earphones out and listen up! I once heard a girl complaining about what she didn’t like in a dress she was trying on and you know what I did? I went home and designed her dress for myself. The girl had style. Same can happen for you; we spend so much time browsing our playlists that we miss out on pure gold.
Give your senses a city whirl and then come back and tell me everything.
Listen up, if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that my me time is the most major key to living my life the Kristianna way. It’s non-negotiable and I’m not here for people who can’t understand that.
Yeah a little. #SorryNotSorry
I’m a struggling social introvert and after a long day I just simply can’t, won’t, you tried it. And what’s worse is that I used to feel bad about it. I’d suffer in silence through the worst headaches, and put up with putdowns when others could not see past my irritability and my willingness to put up with it all. Girl
One thing I figured out is that people will do whatever it takes to secure them and their’s. Whatever that requires, no matter what that means or looks like to them.
Protect your space.
Protect your peace.
There is nothing wrong with taking care of you, and yours. If you need to recharge, reset, or refocus you should be able to do that,
Of all the challenges life has brought to me on an interpersonal level, I feel like simply staying in touch with folks is my hardest task yet. It’s always been a personal flaw pray for me.
I know that’s no excuse but I do find that with my hectic schedule, my long distance relationships are the ones most understanding. My best girlfriends all live pretty far for me especially since I don’t drive; that’s OK because it turns out we have an unspoken understanding.
I only entertain hustlers in my circle, which ultimately means that they are busy too. We keep in touch and talk when we can. We schedule calls, FaceTime and send snaps on Snapchat when we can’t wait. Being friends from a distance allows me to grind guilt free and not have to warm up a situation when I’m feeling social (we all been there which is super awkward and usually obvious). Don’t do it to yourself.
Long-distance friends just get it.