Start Treating Fear Like That One Family Member

Keep it 100%

We all have a family member or two that we know we could live without, but unfortunately due to genetics…

Fear is a natural part of being human, but that does not mean you have to claim it. I’ve been figuring that out for myself as I face my own insecurities surrounding my business.

I’ve been telling my fears to hit the bricks. I’m keeping  my distance.

I only acknowledge my fears on occasion.

Why? Because it’s not only healthy, but helpful.

Sometimes we don’t realize that our fears greatly influence the choices we make. So I put my fears to the back of my mind and just keep an eye on it (anyone know the reference from Always Sunny?) and in the meantime, I prefer to stay focused on my next move.

 

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Stop Apologizing for Needing #MeTime

Listen up, if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that my me time is the most major key to living my life the Kristianna way. It’s non-negotiable and I’m not here for people who can’t understand that.

Yeah a little. #SorryNotSorry

I’m a struggling social introvert and after a long day I just simply can’t, won’t, you tried it. And what’s worse is that I used to feel bad about it. I’d suffer in silence through the worst headaches, and put up with putdowns when others could not see past my irritability and my willingness to put up with it all. Girl

Girl swerve.

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One thing I figured out is that people will do whatever it takes to secure them and their’s. Whatever that requires, no matter what that means or looks like to them.

Protect your space.

Protect your peace.

There is nothing wrong with taking care of you, and yours. If you need to recharge, reset, or refocus you should be able to do that,

unapologetically.

Long-Distance Friendships? Yes Please!

 

Of all the challenges life has brought to me on an interpersonal level, I feel like simply staying in touch with folks is my hardest task yet. It’s always been a personal flaw pray for me.

I’m busy.

I know that’s no excuse but I do find that with my hectic schedule, my long distance relationships are the ones most understanding. My best girlfriends all live pretty far for me especially since I don’t drive; that’s OK because it turns out we have an unspoken understanding.

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I only entertain hustlers in my circle, which ultimately means that they are busy too. We keep in touch and talk when we can. We schedule calls, FaceTime and send snaps on Snapchat when we can’t wait. Being friends from a distance allows me to grind guilt free and not have to warm up a situation when I’m feeling social (we all been there which is super awkward and usually obvious). Don’t do it to yourself.

Long-distance friends just get it.

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Don’t Let Minors Keep You From Being Major

Once upon a time, I quit sewing.

Not because I hated it, not because it hated me, but because I couldn’t draw. “Silly, silly child,” I say to myself whenever I think about the day I brought my sewing machine to the family storage closet and left it there for what ended up being quite a few years. This is another project runway story #SorryNotSorry

I’ve never really been the kind of person to experience any shortages in creativity, but I felt at the time that that was just the problem. I had too many ideas! I had so many dreams and aspirations and things that I wish that I could make. I felt that I wouldn’t fully reach my potential if I could not transfer those ideas from my mind to a piece of paper. I wish I could recall the contestant, but I do remember that it was an earlier season of Project runway. The contestants were sitting in a park drawing out their ideas for the next challenge they were facing and I remember that the camera zoomed in on one of the designers notebooks and I remember thinking “that is one ugly ass drawing.” Then I thought “I can make ugly ass drawings too!”  and that’s when it hit me that as long as you understand what it is that you’re looking at no one can tell you that your drawing is right or wrong. It’s so important to believe in your own vision and for a moment, I had forgotten that.

What a lesson this was and I’m happy to have gotten passed that and to this day, I sketch ugly ass drawings unapologetically.

 

7 Things I learned from Being Fired.

Fired.
Sometimes you see that shit coming, and sometimes you’re standing there with your mouth open.

Getting fired and/or laid off is no fun, but everyone goes through it at least once or twice at some point during his or her career.Unfortunately I’ve had the great honor of experience in both situations; as well as experience with walking out of a job. These aren’t fun experiences, but I’ve learned so much that I feel like I can sprinkle a little wisdom upon your life.

What I’ve learned from quitting, getting fired, and being laid off from my job…

1. Never put your eggs in one basket. This is important to remember when your current job is not necessarily your career. Many times in life we find ourselves stagnant in our jobs, we get comfortable and soon we’re not even thinking forward anymore. You should always keep in mind what your end goal is in every endeavor, especially when it comes to your livelihood.
2. You are just a number. Most companies will tell you how important you are, but when it comes to dollars and cents, you are replaceable. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that your job needs you more than you need your job. You’ll be wrong every time.
3. Always have some money saved. This being life and all, you have to always be prepared for the unexpected. Think to yourself, if I get fired today, how much money do I have saved up? If this answer is little to no money at all, start doing something about it now before it’s too late.
4. Have your circle ready for anything. I spoke before about what it means to have a good support system. You’re going to need the best support system to keep your spirits up float in these difficult times. Depression is a very serious thing, and in my own experience it often follows after the loss of a job. Having good family and friends around you can be just what you need to keep going.
5. Never get too comfortable with coworkers. It’s always nice to have it work buddy, I get it. Do yourself a favor and keep your work conversations with your coworkers squeaky clean and work friendly. Spicy conversations between coworkers, whether it’s gossiping, or sharing personal stories is never worth the backlash, and the possible loss of your job. These are not your friends, and many times they are your competition. Don’t give anyone the power to put you in a compromising position in your workplace.
6. Always have a witness. When things are getting sticky in the workplace, exchanging words with your bosses can be tricky. Words said between two people behind closed doors can not be verified unless there is a third party involved. Protect yourself. If you feel like you are going to get into trouble, grab a coworker and never go alone.
7. You deserve better. While companies are doing their best to make you feel like crap, just remember your worth. At the end of the day you don’t have to take shit from anyone. You can always do better, and at the end of the day it’s up to you to decide and encourage yourself to do better.

So let’s get out there and get fired! OK, so maybe you don’t have to take it that far; but if things unexpectedly take a turn for the worst, remember this: No one can take away what the universe has in store for you, and no one can take away your magic.

That’s right, you’re a unicorn.